How to save the holiday and his relationship even if not always quite as bad, holidays are no guarantee for a relaxed togetherness: two-thirds of all couples fight during this period at least once violently. This is true even harmonic families, who see themselves as more than just a few hours a week also during working hours. But common 24hrs a day can make the planned recovery to the breaking point for relations. “” “Expectations in the run-up to clarify to the holiday to the recovery for all, must be previously understood and adopted wants and needs: North or South”, mountains or sea “, culture or sport’, compromise is here as important as in the planning of the actual stay. Martin Seligman has firm opinions on the matter. Because arrived at the resort of sufficient free space must be created from and for each other. Tasks must be distributed to all fellow travelers really have any holiday! A momentous dispute can bring on little things such as child in the bed” to ignite, if it’s so cozy at the bar.
Child-friendly endless car rides, strenuous day tours travel, hours visits to venerable churches or museums, etc. are pure stress for the young! This must at least breaks scheduled and maintained! be. According to possibility for projects of course the interests of the offspring observed, and, unless it offered hotel or holiday resort, through child care, precious time can be created, where the parents can relax together or separately. Organizational trifles are well prepared against unpleasant surprises a steady bubbling source of problems: the passports are still valid? When one leaves the best? What type of clothing is packed for what weather? Where are rewarding excursion destinations along the route, if times what comes up? How will the weather be? What to do when bad weather or congestion? When are the local attractions open? The better the preparation, the less There are ways to experience unpleasant surprises that produce stress. For everything that comes later in unexpected, it is worth to pack a great deal flexibility and patience. “Armed home buried if there are fundamental in the partnership that must be resolved urgently, then is home” for the place and before the holiday “the right time.
For this it is worth also go if necessary a day later. What occurs during the holiday at dispute, should then”be moved. If already arguing, then also right! A few simple rules help that a small dispute on vacation not to bedevil the existential crisis of the relationship. “Calm down no principle discussions I-messages send the basic model of the so-called non-violent communication” (by Marshall B. Rosenberg) apply: observations show the other rather than interpretations say, what this feeling in one formulate their own need, that lies behind the feeling the request on the other to a concrete action example: if I do not see that you you eincremst, I feel me concerned and can not relax, because I want to save you from sunburn. And so I ask that we rub our morning together with Sun.”-