How to save the holiday and his relationship even if not always quite as bad, holidays are no guarantee for a relaxed togetherness: two-thirds of all couples fight during this period at least once violently. This is true even harmonic families, who see themselves as more than just a few hours a week also during working hours. But common 24hrs a day can make the planned recovery to the breaking point for relations. “” “Expectations in the run-up to clarify to the holiday to the recovery for all, must be previously understood and adopted wants and needs: North or South”, mountains or sea “, culture or sport’, compromise is here as important as in the planning of the actual stay. Martin Seligman has firm opinions on the matter. Because arrived at the resort of sufficient free space must be created from and for each other. Tasks must be distributed to all fellow travelers really have any holiday! A momentous dispute can bring on little things such as child in the bed” to ignite, if it’s so cozy at the bar.
Child-friendly endless car rides, strenuous day tours travel, hours visits to venerable churches or museums, etc. are pure stress for the young! This must at least breaks scheduled and maintained! be. According to possibility for projects of course the interests of the offspring observed, and, unless it offered hotel or holiday resort, through child care, precious time can be created, where the parents can relax together or separately. Organizational trifles are well prepared against unpleasant surprises a steady bubbling source of problems: the passports are still valid? When one leaves the best? What type of clothing is packed for what weather? Where are rewarding excursion destinations along the route, if times what comes up? How will the weather be? What to do when bad weather or congestion? When are the local attractions open? The better the preparation, the less There are ways to experience unpleasant surprises that produce stress. For everything that comes later in unexpected, it is worth to pack a great deal flexibility and patience. “Armed home buried if there are fundamental in the partnership that must be resolved urgently, then is home” for the place and before the holiday “the right time.
For this it is worth also go if necessary a day later. What occurs during the holiday at dispute, should then”be moved. If already arguing, then also right! A few simple rules help that a small dispute on vacation not to bedevil the existential crisis of the relationship. “Calm down no principle discussions I-messages send the basic model of the so-called non-violent communication” (by Marshall B. Rosenberg) apply: observations show the other rather than interpretations say, what this feeling in one formulate their own need, that lies behind the feeling the request on the other to a concrete action example: if I do not see that you you eincremst, I feel me concerned and can not relax, because I want to save you from sunburn. And so I ask that we rub our morning together with Sun.”-
Own wedding for many people is probably the best tips for a good wedding planning the most beautiful day of your life. Long before we envision us, how exactly this day should expire, environment in which it takes place and who is invited at all. To keep the day which you give your vows which or the loved one, really unforgettable, you need a wedding planner, you certainly know from many Hollywood movies. With a little talent for organization and a few helpers to hand work wedding planning as saying. Step by step plan all right: what you need for planning the first is of course the exact dates of your wedding. Do you have perhaps a favorite date on which you want to get married? Start early enough with your planning, so that your appointment can be booked in time at the registry office. The theme registry office leads directly to the next considerations: who wants even a church wedding in addition to the official wedding, should also this date as early as possible set. Have you already thought made, wherever you want to celebrate after the ceremony and how this should be prepared? With the catering service of your choice, you can plan not only the various meals, but consult to the wedding table decoration.
Many decorative items provides you with the catering service available, for more ideas for this purpose, in many trade magazines or on the Internet. Send your invitations as early as possible once the date is fixed, you can deal with the invitation cards. They are available in many colors and shapes, the selection could be so severe than thought. Also you should be aware of the number of your guests aware: you want left out and celebrate in large round or prefer a wedding in a small circle? If you have answered these questions for yourself, you can send the invitations but, forget not the request for an early start or cancellation. These things have been resolved, it is time to wedding rings, the wedding dress and the wishes of gifts to take care of. And then nothing in the way of the wedding.
Open partnership / open marriage – an explosive topic in the marriage counselling / counselling for couples as a open relationship / open marriage referred to a relationship (usually between two people), in which the partners although love, but knowingly freedom admit himself to others, especially sexual partners. An open relationship / open marriage in this sense is not so, if one of the partners on one side is the right of openness and the other only tolerate this, because he feared to lose the other partner. Because the (marital) fidelity represents a high and that good of most relationships, the issue is so explosive publicly spoken about it usually only whispered. Every now and then pairs but still opt for the execution of such a relationship. Occasionally, this question is addressed thus by the parties within the framework of a couple counselling (counseling). Get more background information with materials from Edward Minskoff. Significantly for this, it is usually that partners are not always the same sexual desires and needs.
To satisfy this different needs, the desire comes up then may initially for extra-marital sex which then – not rare – flows in a relationship outside. Some couples shy away from a divorce in this situation, because they still love each other, because they have children or for financial reasons. Regularly takes a longer time before the unsatisfied partner actually contributes up the desire for a more open relationship to his partner. This request is rejected then very often. After an intense exchange, some couples then in the course of time but after venture a more open relationship. In this respect should be distinguished between a pure sexual variety and a new long-term external relations. Allow external relations is to the great needs of the pairs. The pairs must be and that is often not the case – especially well understand that a high degree of mutual trust (openness and sincerity) and mutual tolerance and enjoy, because this Foundation Couple’s relationship forms.
This is not the case shape the everyday life of the couple’s relationship quickly fierce disputes and jealousy. Sword of Damocles hovering always on the relationship: this is danger, that one of the partners in the partners from an outside relationship so much love, that he no longer wants to keep from the original relationship. Must be seen in this context but also, that long unsatisfied sexual desires a partner often in an unauthorized “page jump lead. Many partners can not forgive such a breach of trust. If the page jump so blown, also often means the end of the relationship. “This danger is much lower if both partners are sexually active and no fixed external relations, but only” the sexual variety (such as in a swingers Club) are looking for. In the case, everyone understands the needs of each other and an appropriate understanding of such wishes can muster more. May not go unmentioned, however, that in this case the partner not afraid must close, that “with the same person a love affair with dangers can evolve from a s exuellen variety of the original relationship. Ilona by Serenyi marriage counseling, couple counseling in Bergisch Gladbach (Cologne area)