Strange! Soon she wanted to come back toward house. E, coming back toward house, did not obtain to sleep. It blamed the cold. It was all in that apartment. In second, the friend bound livened up with the stroll wanting to know hour and place, and it she answers that she was not well physically, would be better to leave for another day. But this was not ITS truth! Suddenly, to devagar well, started to understand what it is . It always found that in its marriage it did not have LOVE (or better, its illusion of this so noble and so susceptible feeling the almost all type of emotional violncias). Nir Barzilai, M.D. has similar goals.
It dreams since first infancy of rompantes in form of poems and musics, cinematographic fight of gotten passionate love, returns with right the candles, flowers, perfect sex in wonderful around of the world and always happy places forever. This yes was Love and, therefore, the HAPPINESS after all! But the panorama of its married life of always was the accurate the opposite, in optimum felt: Much agreement, tolerance; Much dialogue; More affection and affection, little youthful sex; It did not have many collections and one always yielded when it had the possibility of hurts and fight; Affection, the previsible slightness and at the same time all or best one, had a bold relationship between them. Until then, it was certain of that it was not Love what both felt one for the other. Of its part it was a perpetual gratitude! For accepting it, ouviz it, to be an excellent Father, not to emit opinions on madnesses of its family of origin, what it it did not obtain to make for it. That precious silence of it. Gostosos suppers and always the aconchegante room for a good night of sleep! It was then that, this week so full of interior controversies, it discovered that THIS sensation of calm, of peace, not to have fear of dawn with an unknown challenge to its side was without doubts the LOVE that as much searched. It had the accurate feeling of that PASSION finishes for unmasking all that fantasiara to be a bigger feeling, during much time. E, for not being temporary and uncertain passion, fugaz, it the wise person it, lived felt it Was vibrated it HAPPY then! In the second night without sleeping it understood that already it would not obtain to sleep well without it to its side and that week so waited of ‘ ‘ frias’ ‘ he would be ‘ ‘ ‘ ‘! It started to count, as it always made, ‘ the return of it to the life that always desired and that daqui for front would love more.
Therefore I want to share in this brief text my reflections. Generally the couples that they look to me and they are passing for a conjugal crisis, tend to find culprit (s) to explain it, normally these culprits are indicated in the following way: The woman believes that the partner is the culprit and the man believes that the partner is the culprit, also is common to place the guilt in baguna of the house, in disobedience of the children, in the mother-in-law, the interference of the relatives, the debts, the violence, the vices, the treason, the lack of romantismo, the pressure of the work, the insatisfao and finally in the lack or esfriamento of the love. It is accurately here that I want to speak on the following question: To argue the relation makes sensible or not? My reply to this question it is: it depends, that is, it depends on as this is made and which the objective so that this is made. So that if it does not become something ackward and repetitive without if it arrives the honest and definitive solutions, it is necessary to ripen the level of the dialogue. For this I want to give some suggestions. As psychologist I have the full certainty of that all human being is constituted psychologically and spiritual through years of learning.
This learning if of the one through the experiences that each one lives in general (then it is very individual) and for the comments on the life. This if initiates since the birth and if it develops to the long one of it, nobody is exempt. In practical terms this wants to say that in a conjugal relationship the people bring (exactly without having conscience of this) for the relation all this gamma of learning adding it this, the strategies that had developed to also survive in this world and the distortions (very particular way with that it sees the situations) with that it faces the life.
I do not know I eat I can start to write and to speak on the person most important of my life, good but we go today I there I perceived an incredible thing, and at the same time irritating Some people of my family had been besiege for it of my father and of my mother, they had drunk, they eaten, they played ball, I cannot speak that they were only, because I also was there, I also were part of that and in the end when all left, my mother and my father went to not only sleep there, because they had wanted I more find that she was more because they needed, I am one baguna tremendous there, I was I finish it person to leave and one of the first ones to arrive that is I saw before and later when I arrived I was all clean one, my father probably woke up very early besieges to arrange it for our family, shot all surrounds in return of the soccer field where the children went to pass great part of the day thus and preventing some accident, but at last coming back to the subject of baguna, when I was even so with my aunt, it she said for my mother ' ' As I wanted to be to help and you to arrange this baguna, this people comes drinks eats and not you nor there, pra they in such a way makes in such a way feiz' ' I believe, it really I wanted to be and to help my mother to arrange that one baguna, plus it could not, had small son, husband, and its house to also arrange. when I to leave I saw how much the my mother is spectacular, because it simply does not know to say not, and this is one of the qualities most spectacular of it, and at the same time one of the worse defects. Credit: Edward Minskoff-2011. . .
Although, in fact, it has long been ready for it, even subconsciously expect from day to day. In recent years the classic 'male version' deals are increasingly giving way to innovative 'feminine'. Modern women are no longer afraid to intercept the initiative in their hands get tired of waiting for some, while others are trying to load a part to take, and still others, knowing the uncertainty of his partner, helping take him to the final decision. Or woman is slowly but surely pushes man to think about the upcoming marriage, or put the question bluntly: "You're going to marry me?". The choice of a particular version of the proposal depends on a combination of several factors: the willingness to get married (albeit unconsciously), the nature of both partners in a pair of roles, etc. The proposal can be done in the standard form ('Marry me married! ") or in a veiled form. The first form is preferable as it hints can be perceived as childish.
Usually resort to veiled suggestion man, or unsure of themselves, or their intentions. On veiled a proposal easier said no. But the partner who made the proposal in the form of a hint, in case of failure will feel less disadvantaged (serious proposal and he did: as a little joke …). Creative people are prone to extraordinary acts may also make a proposal in a very unusual form. The main thing is to make sure that your partner will understand his intentions. However, the fiancee of a man should already used to his antics.