Therefore I want to share in this brief text my reflections. Generally the couples that they look to me and they are passing for a conjugal crisis, tend to find culprit (s) to explain it, normally these culprits are indicated in the following way: The woman believes that the partner is the culprit and the man believes that the partner is the culprit, also is common to place the guilt in baguna of the house, in disobedience of the children, in the mother-in-law, the interference of the relatives, the debts, the violence, the vices, the treason, the lack of romantismo, the pressure of the work, the insatisfao and finally in the lack or esfriamento of the love. It is accurately here that I want to speak on the following question: To argue the relation makes sensible or not? My reply to this question it is: it depends, that is, it depends on as this is made and which the objective so that this is made. So that if it does not become something ackward and repetitive without if it arrives the honest and definitive solutions, it is necessary to ripen the level of the dialogue. For this I want to give some suggestions. As psychologist I have the full certainty of that all human being is constituted psychologically and spiritual through years of learning.

This learning if of the one through the experiences that each one lives in general (then it is very individual) and for the comments on the life. This if initiates since the birth and if it develops to the long one of it, nobody is exempt. In practical terms this wants to say that in a conjugal relationship the people bring (exactly without having conscience of this) for the relation all this gamma of learning adding it this, the strategies that had developed to also survive in this world and the distortions (very particular way with that it sees the situations) with that it faces the life.